Michael Smith and Paula Chamlee have an excellent article on their website about DBI. I've been following their instructions for a couple of years and, while it is hard at first, I'm getting the hang of things and am able to produce reasonably consistent negatives. There are a few important points, though:
Safelight. Not green bulb, as you're after a very specific, very dim shade of green. The filters aren't the easiest thing to track down, but they aren't the hardest. You can still get them new if you want. The color is #3 Dark Green. Use a 5w bulb.
Your eyes produce a chemical in dim light that makes them more receptive to small light sources. It takes a good ten minutes for this chemical to build up enough to become effective for DBI, and some people's eyes don't do as well as others.
Panchromatic film. I use it, and haven't had any problem. Don't start your attempts with T-Max films or Delta films, as they're harder to judge by the light. Only turn the light on for a few seconds at a time, and only when you're near the point you think you want to be at, time-wise. Don't just keep the thing on the whole time and assume you'll be right.
Only look at the base side of the film.
If you can't get it to work for you, don't sweat it and go on to something else. It isn't the end-all, be-all of development techniques, as much as some people would like to think so. Weston did it, Adams didn't. So what?