As far as I'm aware, there is little functional difference between all the various available hypo clearing agents. They all are sulfites. Sodium sulfite, ammonium sulfite, etc. The degree to which they can be diluted varies. The claims for how quickly one can wash archivally seem to be all over the place. I won't trust the super rapid claims. Give prints a real wash no matter what the package claims. There may be a bit of buffering or whatever, but the basic agents remain sulfites. All aid in removal of the products of fixing. As far as I know, nothing on the market currently is a true "hypo eliminator", despite all enthusiastic and misleading commercial naming. They are all just clearing agents. Nothing more.
As far as stopping toning to avoid passing the look you want, I suspect that pulling from the bath before the print looks the way you want it may be the only way to have it come out as you want it, though someone more experienced with toning should pipe up if there is a better way. I too have noted that toning can seem to go too far all too easily. I believe that many things also come out of the wash looking different from what went in. Toning seems more nuanced that it might appear at first glance.