@RandomViews I'm not sure what you're trying to figure out. You have a lens that suffers from haze, which appears to be a condition it developed after you purchased it. Hence, it's apparently something that evaporated and condensed back onto a lens element; this could be moisture/water or it might be a volatile compound in e.g. the helicoid grease. Either way, it doesn't sound like fungus and hence it's not something that might spread to other equipment. Besides, fungal spores are everywhere on the planet, so it doesn't really matter much whether you would have a fungus affected lens in your home to begin with. If it's condensation on a lens element, it does pose questions about storage conditions this lens was subject to. Avoid high heat, and, obviously, high humidity.
As to the question - again, I'm not sure where you want to go with this. You mention you want to get rid of the lens. But at the same time, you seem to limit your options from the get-go.
You could sell it, but you don't want to sell it via eBay, KH or second hand stores. Would selling it to a private individual be OK? Evidently, the haze will affect the price point. Is the asking price something you'd like to have more information on? You could offer the lens for sale here on Photrio or another forum. With an honest description, clear photos and a reasonable asking price, it might move fairly quickly.
You could indeed give the lens away, but you don't want people to ask for it (which puzzles me, frankly), and you already know you can drop it off at a drift store etc. So those options are there for you as well. Expanding on the "sell it on a forum", you could of course set the asking price to zero and basically give it away. We have an arrangement for this on Photrio that doesn't take a paid subscriber account.
I guess I'm looking for a way to move this lens along and convince myself that it's OK.
I suspect the latter is the critical bit. I can't put your mind at ease. The question for you is whether you can forget about whatever you paid for the lens and just dump it in whatever way you see fit. It's logical that you regret its purchase given the limited/zero utility you get from it. At the same time, given the limited utility, there are only two ways to deal with the situation:
1: Fix the lens so you can use it
2: Get rid of it
For 1, you could disassemble it and try to clean the lens elements. Plenty of guides, videos etc. on how to approach this. It may or may not work. It's worth a shot I think if you consider the real value of the lens nearly zero, currently.
As to (2): if the lens has no utility to you right now, why would you limit yourself in the ways to get rid of it? If it's burning a hole in your hands, just toss it. If you want to make someone else happy with it, give it away for free. If you want to recoup some of the cost, sell it on and see how much you can get for it. Use whatever platform that will generate the best result.
To me, this is a "Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance" situation: it's not about the motorcycle. This is not about the lens. This is about letting go in the face of attachment. That's not a technical or a commercial question; it's a psychological one.
To re-iterate: this lens will not contaminate others. So whatever you end up doing, there's no rush. Take your time and feel around what works best for you.
Good luck!