i developed the roll, and shockingly, it was salvaged!! thanks for all the input from everyone. i did two small clip tests so i didn't muck up the whole roll. i lowered my dilution, cut my development time by 35% and gave no agitation. the negatives are low in contrast (which i can compensate for in the printing), but i definitely have details in the highlights and shadows.
and thanks for the future advice on shooting ir -- i'm shooting it again this weekend, and i'm much better prepared about exposure this time.