Yes .
Pick one, and then use it consistently.
I prefer the first choice.
It is the one Ilford recommends.
If your grrandson likes to learn from videos:
I pour in the developer, put the cap on the (Kindermann SS) tank, start the timer and begin inverting the tank. When the timer goes off I remove the cap, pour out the developer, pour in the (plain water) stop bath, replace the cap, restart the timer and begin inverting the tank. I figure the delay in pouring in the developer will be roughly cancelled out by the delay in pouring it out and pouring in the stop bath.
Yes .
Pick one, and then use it consistently.
I prefer the first choice.
It is the one Ilford recommends.
If your grrandson likes to learn from videos:
Now if you want to be real picky, since pouring in the developer and snapping on the cap takes about 10 seconds, you can start pouring out the developer 10 seconds before the end of your chosen time.
Agitation is trickier. Really depends ont the manufacturer's indication and whether or not you follow them or adapt them to your taste. For example, the suggestion agitation pattern for all Ilford liquid chemistry is 4 inversions per minute. For Rodinal, Agfa suggests constant for the first 30 seconds + 5 seconds every 30 seconds (very few people follow this). For XTOL, Kodak indicates agitation for first 30 seconds, then 2 to 5 inversions every 30 seconds. That said, in general, the Ilford pattern will give good results for most developers.