Hello Paul,
I have the 360 Symmar-S, too, and have found f/16 to f/45 to be its sweet spot. That said, though, for 8x10 I've never worried about sharpness loss from diffraction limits or the like. If I need to stop down to f/64 to get the DOF I want, I won't hesitate to use it.
Yes, the 360 SS is heavy--front element about the size of a small dinner plate--but IMO few lenses match it for the type of image it draws on the film. And, no, I don't feel self conscious using this large camera in public. On the contrary, I've had many people approach me asking questions about this "old" camera I use; even back about 25 years ago when my 8x10 camera was brand spanking new!
My advice: just get out and make some images...don't worry about others, except to keep your wits about you, of course.