"I'm near sighted but recently, I acquired some far sightedness."
That was my problem, too. Initially, I started using an SLR with progressive lenses. Well, that just didn't cut it. Unless I let my F100 autofocus, my pics would always be near misses. Next try was to use a waist-level finder in my Hasselblad with the progressives and that was a wash, too. I did make a little progress by getting a screen for the Hasselblad that had a split-image, but they are not the answer to everything, either. Then my wife and I went to the "Dollar" store and tried cheap reading glasses and that was when I got the first real break. Cheap reading glasses can be used with a glasses tether so that they can be off and on and are, that way, more convenient. Even if you are nearsighted, this can work because the beauty of diopter measurement is that is is just plain additive or subtractive.
What I did not realize was that the far-sightedness had put an overlay onto my nearsightedness--again, by subtracting--and changed my correction and that the distances involved with viewfinders were not covered correctly with the progressive lenses. In addition, the progressive lenses only have a small area through which you can look to get any specific correction and it is easy to get it wrong.
I started using a prism finder on my Hasselblad and paid big money for add-on diopters and found, sure enuff, that if I figured a decrease from the standard +6.50D that it took to correct my nearsightedness and used, say a +4.00D lens, then the prism finder looked and worked well. The difference is the number of diopters that my lens had gone toward farsightedness. It was an expensive tinkering project that could have been done more easily with the help of my optometrist.
If you have a good optometrist friend, say one to whom you have gone for a number of years, ask to borrow their set of "try lenses." Every optometrist on the planet is trained using them and will, somewhere, have a set. You can then go home, and try the various corrections with your cameras, taking care to note the numbers, and see just what you need.
About the "Twinkie" problem: I really do not think that you are having any more problem than simply not getting the correction really right. The advice about looking only for a short time, looking away, and looking back is good advice and I use that often in focusing rifle scopes, too. Some of these focusing screens nowadays, especially the ones that are very bright, have a rather indistinct area of sharp focus, too. I noticed that when I bought a Beattie Intenscreen for my 4x5 and had no end of trouble getting really good, tight focus.
Hope that helps.