Using a 105 mm enlarging lens for 6 x 4.5 negatives is no problem at all. The only caveat is that the maximum print size will be only 75% of the size you would be able to acheive with an 80mm lens. But as Nick wrote, an 80mm lens can work just fine for 6x7 and smaller negatives. I have a Schneider 80mm Componon-S that works well with 6x7 negatives even though Schneider doesn't recommend it for that application. If you can find one, and I'm not suggesting that this would be a difficult task, the 80mm EL Nikkors are rated for use with up to 6x7 negatives. I've used, but don't own, one of these lenses and it gives up nothing in terms of image or build quality to the 80mm Componon S.
Regarding light mixing boxes for diffusion enlargers, there is no need to obtain the smaller sizes if you already have the largest sized mixing box available for your machine. My enlarger has the 4x5 light box which I use for everything from 35mm to 4x5. Light boxes designed for smaller formats will concentrate more light onto a smaller aperture. You might gain a stop or so of light with correspondingly shorter exposure times, but other than that there is no difference0